'Insecure' Woman Doesn't Want Sister-in-Law to Wear Her Mom's Wedding Dress First Because She Worries She'll Look Better in It
- - 'Insecure' Woman Doesn't Want Sister-in-Law to Wear Her Mom's Wedding Dress First Because She Worries She'll Look Better in It
Ashlyn RobinetteDecember 10, 2025 at 4:12 AM
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A woman asked Reddit users if she's in the wrong for not wanting her future sister-in-law to wear her mom's wedding dress before she's had the chance to out of fear she'll look better in it
"I’m worried I’ll feel less special in the gown if she’s already worn it and looked amazing in it," she wrote
Redditors commented that it's ultimately the mother's decision because it's her wedding dress
A woman is contemplating whether she's in the wrong for not wanting her soon-to-be sister-in-law to wear her mother's wedding dress out of fear she'll look better in it.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the woman shared her disappointment over her brother's fiancée's plan to wear her mother's wedding dress at one of their "small" pre-ceremony events next month. She explained that she's "always dreamed" of wearing her mother's wedding gown someday, and while she still can in the future, she's afraid that if her sister-in-law does so first then her beauty will outshine her.
"I know this might sound selfish, but I also feel a bit insecure," the poster wrote. "My SIL (sister-in-law) is very beautiful, and I’m worried I’ll feel less special in the gown if she’s already worn it and looked amazing in it."
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The woman told her sister-in-law that she "wasn’t comfortable" with her wearing the dress before she had "the chance to." In response, the bride-to-be "brushed off" her concerns and reiterated that she'll still be able to wear the dress when her big day comes.
The Redditor knows she "shouldn't make a big deal out of it," and partially agrees with her mother's opinion that she's "overreacting," yet she still can't let it go.
"The thing is, my SIL (sister-in-law) is already wearing her own mother’s dress for part of the celebrations," she explained. "It feels unfair that she would also wear my mom’s dress before I get the chance to."
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In the comments section, most Redditors agreed that while the woman is NTA (Not the A------) in this scenario, she shouldn't have a say in what happens to the wedding dress because her mother has already given permission for her future daughter-in-law to wear it.
"It’s your mother’s dress. And she is still alive and in possession of her dress. She can lend her dress to her new daughter-in-law if she wants to," one person wrote. "You can be upset about it, but it’s hers to lend as she pleases."
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A few people said that the sister-in-law is "overstepping," and that it's "greedy" of her to wear such a meaningful dress to a less significant pre-wedding event after the poster shared her discomfort. They also said that the mother should have taken her daughter's feelings into consideration before making her decision.
"Your mom is being obtuse about you wanting to wear the dress again and your SIL (sister-in-law) is stirring up trouble," an individual said. "You're not overreacting at all. I'd be pissed, too. And I'd ask my SIL why she did that when she knew I wanted to wear the dress. She's counting on you just rolling over and taking it."
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